How Was Your Day?
This seems like such a simple question and takes only a second to ask someone. However, it’s often forgotten and easily dismissed in the midst of the chaos and flurry of activity within host family homes across the country.
When a host mother or host father comes home at the end of the day and neglects to ask this simple question of the au pair, they miss the opportunity to engage with the person who is taking care of the most important thing in the world to them, their children. They also miss the opportunity to recognize some of the challenges the au pair may have experienced which can build up over time and cause greater frustration and reasons for transition.
When an au pair neglects to ask this simple question of the host mother or host father, they miss the opportunity to engage with the people who can help make their au pair experience an unforgettable one. By not engaging with the host family in this very simple way, they may be unknowingly sending a message that as soon as the parents come home, they are “off the clock” and uninterested in being a part of the family. They may also miss out on the opportunity to understand that it’s because of a big case, a major project, some sort of office shake-up or other work-related crisis that is causing the host mother or host father to be distracted or stressed out and it’s not because of the au pair.
It’s easy to get so caught up in our own experiences each day that something like this can fall off of our already full to-do lists. Just a small investment of time in this simple question as well as the answer given can provide a great deal of insight into the experiences of someone who makes a big difference in your every day life.